Quotes and Notes for the Day
HOW ARE YOU TREATING
YOUR WIFE? – IV
The Negotiated Wife
By Pastor L. Alan Moravek
The next kind of wife to think about is the negotiated wife. Never heard of her, eh? You know, the making of deals with your wife: I’ll do such and such if you’ll do this and that. It is the putting into practice the give and take facet of marriage, the idea that marriage is 50-50 proposition. From whence did that thing spring forth? I believe you will be hard pressed to find chapter and verse in the Bible to support it.
Since the husband’s love is to be patterned after our Savior’s love for the church, then marriage is not a 50-50 deal What is it then? If a percent can be properly assigned, it would be 100-0. What! That is ridiculous! It is? Did not God love us while we were yet sinners? Is not agape love such that the one who loves like that does so for the benefit of the one loved, whether or not there is any reciprocal actin in kind?
Knowing that God has ordained marriage leads me to believe that God has created males and females to be different. Isn’t that an earth-shaking revelation? Seriously in today’s gender perversion it is rather strange thinking. What therefore is my point? God made man and woman to complement each other! A God-ordered union will function as a highly harmonized unit. When a machine is tuned/timed, lubricated, and operated according to the designers’ specs, a man will often say, “ She’s purring like a kitten.” When our marriages are ordered according to God’s plan, with the husbands giving the Spirit-led direction and loving their wives as Christ loved the church, the wives will respond according to God’s design, and those marriages will purr like a kitten.
Are you familiar with the negotiated wife? who might she be? In our nineteen years on the road we met plenty of them- yes, in our fundamental, independent, separated, King James totin’, Baptist churches. The husband who has this kind of wife has adopted the command-and-demand approach to loving his wife. This the husband who never succeeded in becoming DI at parris Island ( boot camp for the USA Marine Corp.) and now he is seeking to fulfill that dream in his wife and children.
This modus operandi has proven to be a superior method of transforming new recruits into Jar heads and Leathernecks for what some regard as the greatest fighting on the planet; however, Brother, if you one of the guilty ones, it will never work for your wife and family. That necessary discipline for Marines was not intended for ordering a home, and the sooner you learn that the sooner you’ll have a happy home.
you see, your home is the kind from which your children are longing to escape as soon as they are of age, and presently they don’t care if they will ever see you again. Is that the kind of home you really desire? If not, then humble yourself, cease trying to be Rambo, and love your wife as Christ loved the church. You will be hard pressed to find even a thread of Scriptural support for the command-and-demand style.
Why do I say that your wife is negotiated? That[‘s easy to explain. She has no say or input in making household decisions( neither do your children when they become of age): she’s good for nothing except to fix your meals, doing your laundry, mopping the floors… and bearing children; and if she dares to deviate one iota from one of your commands she is immediately with being a rebellious wife.
To bolster your position you have any number of like-minded dictatorial cockalorums, including a number of pastors, taking your side. Collectively, their thinking is this: When there is any turmoil in a marriage, the husband is always right, and the non-submissive wife (this latter designation is given!) is always the cause. In principle, not in action for action, this command-and-demand husband is no different than a Muslim.
“Outside of salvation, your wife should be your most precious gift.” (unknown)
to be continued…………………………..
N.B. : For comments and further inquiry Pastor Moravek can be reached, Email: email@example.com
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The Bible reveals two ways which people are following to get into heaven. One way, the true way, is God’s way. God’s way into heaven is the way of peace and truth and righteousness. It is the only way approved of God. This way centers in the Lord Jesus Christ who said: “I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by Me” (John 14:6). The Bible declares that there is another way. “There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death” (Prov. 14:12).
There are so many popular ways today filled with lost multitudes all over the land, such as the way of morality, the way of respectability, the way of religion, the way of churchianity, the way of baptism, the way of christening, the way of confirmation, the way of penance, the way of confession, the way of “doing the best I can”, the way of self, the way of education, the way of philosophy, the way of false isms and cults that crowd the street. Little wonder then when we speak to people about the way of salvation, that so many have asked, “How can I know which is the true way? There are so many different ideas and so many religions.”
But there is ONE difference between God’s way of salvation and man’s way, and that difference is found in a Person, the Lord Jesus Christ. You will notice that man leaves Christ out of the center of his way. You will discover that the modern false cults and isms demote Christ to a mere man and add something to what He has already done for your salvation and mine. We become children of God through a supernatural birth. Jesus said to Nicodemus: “Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God” (John 3:3). Jesus also said, “Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again” (John 3:7)
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