Quotes and Notes for the Day
THE INSTITUTION CALLED MARRIAGE – IV
(The Ideal – Christian Wife )
In the book of proverbs 31:10 we read, “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” Also Proverb 12:4 reads, ” A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.”
A married couple without mutual regard for one another is one of the most pitiable spectacles on earth. They can not, and indeed, in ordinary circumstances, ought not to separate, and yet they remain united only to be a torment to each other. They serve an important purpose, however, in the history of mankind, and that is, to be a beacon to all who are yet disengaged, to warn them against the sin and folly of forming this union, upon any other basis than that of a pure and mutual attachment; and to admonish all that are united, to watch with most assiduous vigilance their mutual regard, that nothing be allowed to damp the sacred flame.
In the third chapter First Peter some instructions are given to Christian wife on how she is to conduct herself in marriage. Feminists and modernists would scoff at much of what the Bible has to say with this regard. Yet when this passage is carefully studied, we find in it some very practical and very helpful instructions on how a wife can win in her marriage without having to go through a war. ” Like wise ye, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be own by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair……….. the hidden man of the heart……….. God great price.” 1st Peter 3:1-4
The Bible says that a godly wife can win her husband over to the Lord if she does so carefully and wisely. What makes these first two verses so important to godly wives is that if the wife will obey the Word of God in her own life, she will have the capability of helping to bring about the supernatural change that needs to take place in the life of her husband. When non-Christian husbands witness the powerful testimony of their wife’s pure life, it will thaw even an icy heart. The wife need not preach to her husband, for even the hard-hearted husband will pay attention to a pure life. The husband cannot miss what his wife is truly about. He cannot overlook the impact salvation made on her life. As soon as the husband sees for himself the reality of Christ in his wife’s life, he will have the greatest opportunity to accept Christ.
He may not listen to her verbal witness but he will observe her life. He looks, not listens. He waits to see if there is a change. “Your chaste” simply means pure. It carrys the idea of blameless in this verse. This is purity in the broadest sense, not just sexual purity. It should permeate everything the wife does. Her husband observes every decision she makes, every action she takes with her children.
The wife who wants to win her husband to Christ must live in obedience to the word of God and be morally pure. She won’t use deception or dishonesty to try to get her own way. She will learn to handle anger in a biblical way. Her hope will be in God so that she will have a sweet spirit, even toward a difficult husband. He will see Christ-likeness in her. All in all, the ideal – Christian wife exhibits the following traits:
1.MODEL- WITH REGARD TO SUBMISSION: God wants the Christian women to win her husband by a life of reverence and purity expressed in a submissive attitude that honors him as the head of the home. It is the character and conduct of the wife that will win the lost husband—not arguments, but such attitudes as submission, understanding, love, kindness, patience. These qualities are not manufactured; they are the fruit of the Spirit that come when we are submitted to Christ. We read in 1st Peter 3:1, “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands..” and again in verses 5 and 6, we read, “…. who trusted in God adorned themselves being in subjection to their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord:…” in these verses is laid down the principle of submission which is reflected by the conversation of the wife, which is her whole manner life, including her speech. The tone of her voice and the words she speaks reflect whether she respects her husband and are in submission to him, or whether she is in a power struggle against him.
The husband largely configures his view of Christ by what he sees in his wife. He judges Christ by the way he sees his wife living. That is what the word conversation means, her manner of life. If his wife has a sharp tongue, a desire for gossip or an uncontrollable temper, that will be his view of the Christian life. The picture here is of a mature woman who, in the face of adversity from her husband, stands independent. Even though he may treat her poorly she does not interfere with the Lord’s work in his heart by complaining – which speaks of her inner beauty.
The husband will respect his wife’s testimony. He will watch to see if there is any change in her life. Is she just as short tempered as she always was? Is she still as critical as she was? Does she nag like she used to? If this is true, what kind of salvation is that? He does not want it.
Yes, the wife does not simply exist to meet the needs of her husband. The Bible does not ask the wife to live vicariously through her husband, but to reach the potential God designed for her. Many husbands, drain their wives of everything. They render little in return. Some husbands feel there is inherent superiority in their role. The Bible argues for authority of position, not person. The Bible argues for mutuality in marriage, not individuality. Individuality is the central thesis of much modern thinking about marriage.
” While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.” in this verse the word “Fear” does not carry the idea of dread of the husband. “Fear” is respect for authority- the authority of her husband. The wife sets her husband aside as unique and special. Although he is belligerent to the gospel, she respects him as the leader of her home, as a man and as a husband and father. If he sees his wife respect even his right to reject Christ, this will lower the barrier between them, and between him and the gospel. In the book of Ephesians 5:33 we read, ” Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
The Christian wife treats her husband with respect, and honor. It is difficult for the non-Christian husband to remain an island to his Christian wife if she steps into his essential need. If the wife treats her husband as somebody, if she believes in him, he is more likely to become a Christian and the husband he should be. But a wife who downgrades her husband by always disagreeing with him, making him appear foolish or being sarcastic toward him in public will never gain her husband. A wife who is indifferent toward her husband’s accomplishments or who ignores his achievements disrespects him. He will be driven into a shell, and he will shut his wife out of his life.
No woman gets a ready-made, fully-mature husband. She has a responsibility before God to help him become what he can become. Women who live a positive testimony before their husbands will earn their respect even if they do not agree with her beliefs. These women become more thoughtful, more reasonable than ever before. This will have great impact upon non-Christian husbands.
If and when the wife honors her husband by bringing out the best in him, this will glorify God.
to be continued………………………..
From The Staff of Peoples Gospel Hour
The Bible reveals two ways which people are following to get into heaven. One way, the true way, is God’s way. God’s way into heaven is the way of peace and truth and righteousness. It is the only way approved of God. This way centers in the Lord Jesus Christ who said: “I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by Me” (John 14:6). The Bible declares that there is another way. “There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death” (Prov. 14:12).
There are so many popular ways today filled with lost multitudes all over the land, such as the way of morality, the way of respectability, the way of religion, the way of churchianity, the way of baptism, the way of christening, the way of confirmation, the way of penance, the way of confession, the way of “doing the best I can”, the way of self, the way of education, the way of philosophy, the way of false isms and cults that crowd the street. Little wonder then when we speak to people about the way of salvation, that so many have asked, “How can I know which is the true way? There are so many different ideas and so many religions.”
But there is ONE difference between God’s way of salvation and man’s way, and that difference is found in a Person, the Lord Jesus Christ. You will notice that man leaves Christ out of the center of his way. You will discover that the modern false cults and isms demote Christ to a mere man and add something to what He has already done for your salvation and mine. We become children of God through a supernatural birth. Jesus said to Nicodemus: “Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God” (John 3:3). Jesus also said, “Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again” (John 3:7)
“May the Lord bless you, and make you a blessing!” – The PGH Staff.